Clay Walker "Fall"

I edited this music video with Revolution Pictures. My good friend Roman directed the video. He's really talented and it was an honor working with him on this project. You can check out the link in the bar on the right side of this blog. Peace

Boundaries

Boundaries by John Townsend and Henry Cloud: A great book so far. I started reading it when I went to visit my daughter's councelor to set up an appointment for her. I talked briefly about my life and she asked a few questions about my relationship with my wife. This book was recommended shortly after.

"People who own their own lives do not feel guilty about where they are going." How many times have I felt guilty. It came as no surprise to me, but more as an exciting revelation when I realized that a large amount of the guilt that I felt in life came from, I believe prior confrontations involving my behavior.

Largely I attribute it to my ADHD. I don't consider it to be a disorder it's merely an amazingly and rewardingly different view of life. Infact, I love being able to tell people that I have ADD. However, on countless occasions I found myself at the mercy of a higher authority who didn't understand me, couldn't control me, and had the authority to disipline me for precieved infractions to humanity, always insisting that I had potential, but never lived up to par. I got accustomed to being punished for things that I never considered and to this day do not consider to be bad. So if ever I began to feel happy or good, or was having too much fun I began to feel guity, certain that my actions were in some way destorying the universe.

I needed boundaries. I needed to think about what was going to be acceptable for me and what wasn't and for everyone else who was offended by my life. Sorry, you'll get over it... or you won't. But at least I will know where I begin and where I end.

"One sure sign of boundary problem is when your relationship with one person has the power to effect your relationship with others."

LORD: Man how often have I done that in my life? I know I've done it over and over again with Heidi. Might as well have given her a belt, a whip, and some gloves. I was always afraid of upsetting her. Not meeting her expectations. Losing her love. Help me set up a good line with her. Where else do I need boundaries?

"To be an adult means you must live within your means and pay for your own failures.